Judith (Cindy) Durney
June 28, 1948 - December 11, 2018
Service Date: December 22, 2018
A Memorial Service will be held on Saturday, December 22, 2018 at 11:00 a.m. at the Autumn Green Funeral Home, 47 Oak Street in Alfred, followed by a celebration of life at the Waterboro Grange Hall, 31 West Road, in Waterboro.
Judith Durney came roaring into this world in June of 1948. She was known to all for her laughter. You knew you had arrived at her lake house when you heard her laugh and she greeted you with a smile.
Born to George and Elizabeth (Joyce) Braceland, she was the youngest of eight children and known to all as Cindy. Her siblings Joyce (Braceland) Munger, Jackie Braceland, Robert (Punky) Braceland, and Richard (Butch) Braceland, predeceased her. George William Braceland of Florida, Sr. Nancy Braceland of Roslindale, MA and Jill Braceland of Dover, NH walked with her until the end. She also leaves behind her life partner Sam Pasquarelli of East Waterboro, daughter Sonya Durney and spouse Mark Gordon of East Waterboro, son Joseph Durney and his partner Bethany Ingham of Kennebunk, son Richard Durney and spouse Robbin Durney of Topsham. She also leaves behind the Braceland family consisting of over 175 cousins, nieces, nephews. Add a few more to that total to include the Lanigans.
She was an extremely giving person, always thinking of others first. To her nieces and nephews she was the type of aunt that would lend you her convertible sports car with a full tank of gas for a date. She would come in from her lunch date and show her nieces how to apply lipstick as she was getting ready for an evening date with a different suitor.
She had many hobbies and adventures. She spent part of her life flagging NASCAR races with her sister Jill. Once she was the first on the scene when Paul Newman crashed his car. She repeatedly offered to give him mouth to mouth resuscitation even though he was not hurt badly. She enjoyed camping with her family. As the Bracelands gathered every July at their family reunion, Cindy and her campsite were the heart of the party.
Cindy married Bill Durney in June of 1973. Their house was filled with her signature laughter and the sound of music as Bill loved to play the piano. Soon the sound of pitter patter of three little sets of feet joined the music. Sadly, the world lost Bill in the fall of 1980.
A young widowed mother of three small children might be expected to spend a lot of time feeling sorry for herself. Not Cindy, she purchased a camper and drove the kids to Disney World. Was she sad? Of course! Were she and the kids going to sit around feeling sad? Nope, she would not let that happen. She was truly the best mom as she managed to bring joy into each and every day, no matter what. To her children she was everything.
When Bill died, their home in Framingham, MA was in the midst of a remodel. When she decided to finish the job, she hired a local construction crew, Pasquarelli Construction. Sam Pasquarelli soon became her lifelong contractor. She would forever keep him busy with additions, decks, building her lake house, and he always answered: “yes honey.” Sam was Cindy’s rock. He was an amazing caretaker of Cindy during her illness, which was not a surprise as he always took care of his Cindy. He is also an amazing step-father to the kids.
In 1984 Cindy and Sam bought a summer house on Little Ossipee Lake in Maine, opening a new chapter. The door to that house was always open. If you could find a spot on the floor to squeeze in a sleeping bag, you could stay! There was always a pot of coffee on or a cold beer ready to be cracked in the fridge. Everyone knew you could go to Cindys and talk for five minutes or for the whole weekend. She had a gift of making everyone feel special, valued, and welcomed.
Cindy leaves behind three grandchildren Dylan, Rylei, and Liam. She filled their lives with joy….and marshmallows by the fire, and glow-in-the-dark bracelets, and loud flashing toys that would drive their parents mad. The kids won the Grandmother lottery. Literally, as Cindy knew, it was never too early to learn how to scratch a lottery ticket.
Always committed to serving the community, when she moved to Maine she became involved with the Waterboro Old Home Days, the Waterboro Historical Society, and the Red Hat Ladies. Adding her special brand of fun to all of their events.
Cindy passed at home on December 11th, surrounded by her family. The world will be much more quiet without the roar of her laugher. The world will be much less fun for those who knew her. We must gather our strength and continue to make the most of each day and laugh whenever we can. This is what she would have wanted.
She was deeply loved. And she loved deeply.
A Memorial Service will be held on Saturday, December 22, 2018 at 11:00 a.m. at the Autumn Green Funeral Home, 47 Oak St., in Alfred, followed by a celebration of life at the Waterboro Grange Hall, 31 West Road, Waterboro Maine. All are welcome.
In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Waterboro Historical Society, P.O. Box 498, No. Waterboro, ME 04061.
The Autumn Green Funeral Home is respectfully handling arrangements.