Henry Peter Ross III

October 11, 1955 - March 10, 2020

U.S. Veteran

Service Date:

A graveside service for immediate family will be held at St. Joseph's Cemetery in Biddeford, later in the spring.

Henry Peter Ross, III, 64, of Portland, passed away peacefully in the early morning on Tuesday, March 10, 2020 at the Newton Center in Sanford, after a lengthy illness. His mother Caroline visited often and he was comforted by her presence.  Pete’s sister Pamela, kept her promise and was by his side as he journeyed from this world to the next.

Pete was born in Biddeford on October 11, 1955, the son of Henry and Caroline (Baker) Ross, Jr.

Peter graduated from Thornton Academy in Saco and then enlisted into the U.S. Navy.

With Pete’s diverse background and love of working with the public, he was very proud of his valet business he started at DiMillo’s Restaurant where his nickname “Parking Lot Pete” was coined. He also worked at the Shalom House for several years; he had a way with the residents and excelled in this position because of his patience and respect for the residents he cared for.

Pete remained a bachelor but over twenty years ago, one special woman caught his attention and his heart, Susan Lowe. Over the years, their relationship blossomed into one of friendship and loving commitment between them. For a man that could not express his feelings openly; he knew he was blessed to have this wonderful woman in his life.

Pete enjoyed living independently and rarely asked for help. As his health began to decline, his friend Al Russo graciously spend several hours with Pete each day; making sure he was eating and tending to any needs that arose throughout the day or night. Al’s generous nature shone through and he never asked for anything in return. He was a true friend to Peter and helped him to remain in his home, with his familiar surroundings. Peter would share with his family that Al was “one in a million” and one of the kindest man he was blessed to know.

Pete was the oldest of five children and left the nest before the other Ross children. Over the last ten years, Pete found his way back to his family and began sharing phone calls and visits. His relationship with his siblings meant so much to him and he looked forward to the phone calls from his brother Donald in Florida. Just a few short years ago, Donald made a trip to Maine and he and Peter enjoyed eating at Ken’s; savoring his favorite meal: whole belly fried clams! This past December his brother Michael came from Washington State and surprised him with a visit at his home. It gave them a chance to reminisce and the special bond Pete shared with his brothers could not be broken.

While spending time at Maine Medical Center, Peter was pleasantly surprised to see his youngest sister Karen; she was working on his floor as a CNA. I’m sure Pete thought he could get some extra TLC from the staff! Over the years, Pete formed a special relationship with Pamela’s husband Marc. He looked forward to sharing in Thanksgiving gatherings and annual summer barbeques. Pete respected and loved Marc; he considered him to be his ‘bonus brother.’

Pete held his relationships close to his heart and was known to be a private person. Trying to maintain a proud and strong exterior; those that were close to Pete knew he had a gentler, softer, side to him. When Pete noticed that his younger sister Pamela was struggling, he would lovingly tap her hand and say, “I love you and it’s going to be okay.”

There is one constant memory that Peter held in his heart; it was for his Pepere’ Ross. Pete shared they would go out on his boat fishing or just motor up through the Saco River. The love and time spent with Pepere’ Ross would remain as one of Pete’s happiest memories as a child.

We now have tears and our hearts are broken as we share the highlights of Peter’s life. . . But, the most important gift Peter gave to us was: being a patient and loving son and brother. He was a faithful friend to many. Though Peter often struggled to express his feelings or to ask for help; he was able to allow us to come in to care for him, spend time with him and to let him know how much we loved him.

We love you brother. . .

Our family would like to express our gratitude to the Newton Center in Sanford; the staff went above and beyond caring for his every need. They did so with patience, compassion and graciousness throughout his stay with them. Special thanks to Uncle Norman, Aunt Esther and Robin Meheen for taking time to send pizza and fried clams to him. His last few meals were the best!

Peter is lovingly survived by his mother Caroline (Baker) Ross of Lyman; his sisters, Pamela Parenteau and husband Marc of Lyman and Karen Richard and husband Joey of Windham; his brothers, Donald Ross and wife Debbie in Florida and Michael Ross and wife Jane of Washington State. Also many uncles, aunts, cousins, nieces & nephews and great nieces & great nephews. Peter was predeceased by his father Henry Ross, Jr.

A Graveside Service will be held for immediate family later in the spring at St. Joseph’s Cemetery in Biddeford.

In lieu of flowers, please take a moment to tell someone they are loved.

The Autumn Green Funeral Home is respectfully handling arrangements.


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